Only through our connectedness to others can we really connect, know, and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance connectedness to others.
In yoga, we ask people to connect to their bodies. Press down through the four corners of your feet, spread your fingers out wide, pull your belly in and up, etc… These cues seem so simple, yes, they are, but they are so powerful. They teach us to connect with our bodies. To feel our skin, our muscles, and our bones. How often do you take the time to truly feel your body? I find so many people are so unaware of what it truly means to connect to their own physical body.
For years I was completely disconnected from my body. I didn’t like my body, I believed it was “not good enough” and that it was “broken”. This leads me to have no connection with it until I came to yoga. I remember one of my first teachers saying feel your body over and over, feel your fingers, your toes, your belly. This experience began to bring my body alive to me. It was the start of a whole new feeling. After months of practice, I began to become more aware of the body, also off my mat. I began to understand that my body did so many wonderful things for me. Around this time I also started to believe that my body was not all bad. That there were also good parts, and that it served me well.
This connection to my body was a beautiful awakening. The more I became connected to my body the more connected I started to feel my emotions, and then to my thoughts. I was able to understand the idea that your emotions live in your body. I could identify where they were living, and this alone I came to learn is extremely powerful.
Identifying where our feelings live in the body is the first step to understanding that they are a part of us, and they don’t live outside of us. I was able to understand that only I could feel my feelings, that only I could create them. This is extremely powerful. It means I have complete control over how I feel. This started my journey into understanding how our emotions are created
This journey began with books, and then I dove into coaching. As I hired my own coach, I have learned that feelings are not created by an outside circumstance, but by our n thoughts. Our own thoughts decide what we feel. Thoughts are the most powerful thing we have as humans. We have 60-90K a day. Many of them being recycled over and over again. It is, for this reason, we choose our thoughts wisely. That we take time each day to connect to our bodies, so we can connect to our minds, so we do not just live from default. We live intentionally.
My experience with the mind-body connection has led me down a path towards living a more peaceful joyful life. The peace comes from the awareness that I can decide what to think on purpose, and joyful as I have such deep connections with others. I truly believe this connection comes from the ability to first fully connect with the self.
Take time each day to connect to your body. To clear the clutter in your mind, so you can hear your own thoughts, so you can connect to your soul and the soul of others. We have one life, why not live it in full expression!
How do we live a life that is from a place of bravery, not fear?
A question so many people come to me with!
I think it is important to first define the word Bravery. According to Webster dictionary;
The quality or state of having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty.
From this definition Bravery comes from our brains, so we must be in a mindset to embrace a challenge, fear, or difficulty to accomplish it.
To live a life of bravery starts with our thinking. To decide on purpose that we are willing to face a fear, challenge, or difficult situation. I can think of so many times in my life where I have been brave, and many times where I have not. If I apply the model that I teach in coaching to any of these situations, I can easily see, that in any of the circumstances, it all started with a thought in my head.
I believe being brave is an important part of our evolution as human beings. Being brave is not just jumping out of airplanes, or doing handstands in yoga, being brave is also speaking up for yourself, allowing yourself to be seen for who you are, being vulnerable.
Vulnerability can be our power, if we allow it. We must invite it into our lives, and show up from it! I choose to do this daily. I do it because I want to evolve as a human, I want to show up and be of service every single day for me and for others, and I do it because it has given me such strength and freedom. Vulnerability has given me self-confidence. Self-confidence provides me with the luxury of peace and happiness.
Today choose bravery over fear! Choose bravery because your life depends on it!
Put yourself out there, be vulnerable, and then just observe!