What is self love?
According to google the all knowing, Self Love is regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic). This week is Valentines and growing up I was never a huge fan of the holiday especially during high school. I wasn’t the popular kid, I wasn’t a nerd either, I was just kind of there. I had a few boyfriends but never on Valentines Day. So when Valentine's Day came around I always I remember feeling sad because I didn’t have someone. I remember in school other girls would get valentines and I felt like I was missing out. So I started to ponder, what if instead of Valentines Day being a day to focus on love from others, which don’t get me wrong feels great and is important, that we take this day, week, or month to focus on self-love. Then everyone would feel included, and no one would feel left out. In the end this seems like it could be wonderful for all humans.
So this week I have decided to do that. Focus all week on self-love. Both on my yoga mat, in my teaching, and in my personal life. One of the best ways I have learned to practice self-love is to observe my thoughts. Taking a minimum of five minutes to just get quiet. This centers me for the rest of the day. Just 5 minutes gets my mind in a space to be more mindful for the rest of my day. From this practice, I have become more aware of the negative thoughts as they appear throughout my day. When they pop up, I feel them, label them, acknowledge them, and then turn them around and create a powerful affirmation. The key is to then, repeat. repeat. repeat. Throughout the day I repeat the new affirmation. The affirmation of self-love. It is through the repetition that I get stronger. On the yoga mat I will always repeat a sequence, often adding on to it each round. It has been shown through repetition that we gain physical strength, but we also gain mental strength. I have noticed this both in my body and in my mind.
If we are constantly telling the self we are not “good enough, smart enough, successful enough, or strong enough the mind will create and seek circumstances to reinforce it. However, the same is true if we tell ourselves that we are “good enough, smart enough, successful enough, strong enough” the mind will seek opportunities to prove this. It is called the law of attraction. Direct your thinking towards what you want in your life, and your thinking will materialize whatever you want in your life. So simple, but so many of us fall into default thinking, not even aware of our thoughts and how powerful they are. So this week or this Thursday why not set your thoughts on self-love.
Another way to manifest more self-love in our lives is to take a minimum of 5 minutes a day to do something that you enjoy. Not something that you are required to do, but to embrace your inner child, grab a cup of tea, a good book, dance around your house, go for a walk, or just sit quietly. When we give ourselves permission to take time for the self we are practicing self-love. In my opinion this is not selfish. This is necessary in order to be a more loving, patient, kind individual for others.