Have you ever noticed that once you want something you see it everywhere you go?
For example, when I wanted to get pregnant, all of sudden everywhere I looked all I saw was pregnant women. It’s not that they weren’t there before, I just didn’t notice them because it’s not where my thoughts were being directed. In mindset coaching, this is a lot of the work we do. We look at our thoughts, and how they are impacting our life, how they are directing all of our actions, we use powerful tools like self-inquiry and mindfulness to take back the power we so desperately crave and desire.
Here is wonderful example. For as longs as I can remember I have had this feeling of not feeling that I am as important. I have had this belief that I am low on everyone’s mind. I’m not sure where this belief originated from or when I started to feel this way, but it has always loomed in the background of my life. I am the middle child, so maybe it has something to do with birth order, it seems to make sense to me. The reality is it doesn’t matter where it originated from, it is there, and is super strong. Recently doing mindset coaching on myself I’ve come to understand that this belief is not serving me nor is it even true. Now, I understand this on a conscious level, however, my default way of being is to rely on this belief. So I’m constantly working on it. Like I said before, once you are aware of something, it will begin to show up all over your life and want to challenge you. Super Bowl sunday night I made a big deal out of nothing because of this unserving belief. My thoughts created a relatively innocent situation into a confrontation with my husband, because this underlying belief poked its way back into my mind. The thoughts of not feeling important led me to feeling angry, and lashing out at him. If I had not had this belief nothing would have happened, because I wouldn't have gotten angry. He is a truly wonderful man that is always thinking about me, and I know I am important to him. Feeling less then, created a reaction that I am not proud of. Which yes I later came back and apologized for. My new belief is that I am important. In order to believe this I have repeatedly remind myself of it. This is one way to strengthen the new belief. The new belief I know will continue to be challenged, but with practice and time it will get stronger, and the old belief will weaken and fade away.
My hope is that you can see from this story, that we all create underlying beliefs that are not serving us in our lives right now. When we get quiet, and are willing to look at our own thoughts we can begin to build awareness around them. Dive into self-inquiry and with continuous effort we can change those limiting beliefs, and create new ones that empower us. Once the new belief has been established we start to look from the new perspective, and from that we will be able to reinforce the new belief, so it will stick. Shifting our vision for me is not just looking at things from a new light, but it goes way deeper, it is looking at our thinking, changing our thinking so we can have a new lens to be looking through. A lens that empowers us, challenges us, creates a life full of possibility.